In the article Seeking My Race-Based Valentine Online, which appears in the February 22 issue of Time, Jenée Desmond-Harris calls attention to the double standard and affirms that preferring to date a partner of the same-race doesn't make you a racist:
But do racial preferences amount to racism? Or is overlooking an entire ethnicity as innocuous as filtering out redheads or people under a certain height? "Just because you take race into consideration in your dating preferences and are aware of race doesn't make you racist," says Dr. Nicole Coleman, a psychology professor at the University of Houston. Minorities who prefer to date within their own race or ethnicity — and who look for potential mates on niche sites like BlackPeopleMeet.com and Amor.com — would probably agree with her.